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The Mountain Within

“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” – e. e. cummings

“Men go abroad to wonder at the heights of mountains, at the huge waves of the sea, at the long courses of the rivers, at the vast compass of the ocean, at the circular motions of the stars, and they pass by themselves without wondering.” – Saint Augustine

Weave new things into your daily flurry of autopilot “to do” lists, commitments and activities to expand, discover and deepen. Three of my favorite podcasts that I listen to in the car or on a run that stretch my mind, spark wonder and prompt reflection include:

Everything Happens by Kate Bowler
On Being by Krista Tippett
Poetry Unbound by Pádraig Ó Tuama

Explore, inquire, listen and transform. Fill your reservoir with music, art, poetry, reflection, rest, play. Infuse joy, laughter and fun too. Do not pass yourself at the altar of productivity, checklists and “someday when things are perfect thinking.” Your life is happening today. Pause, sit down and be still. You are pretty awesome, more than enough and worthy. Climb the mountain within.

“Neuroscience research shows that the only way we can change the way we feel is by becoming aware of our inner experience and learning to befriend what is going inside ourselves.”― Bessel A. van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mid, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

Reflection and Definition

“Change comes from reflection.” – Genesis P-Orridge

“How dull it is to have people defining you.” – Octavia E. Butler

After soaring over the lake welcoming the day, the eagle landed on a rock.
Gazing around at rest, he looks down at the water, frozen in rapt attention.
Seeing his reflection looking back, he stares.
In that moment of pause, he sees himself, defines himself.

Spend time daily apart from opinion, memory and imposed narratives that have defined you.
Suspend, open, look with new eyes.
Gaze at the reflection looking back at you.
See and take in your True Self, God’s definition not others or your own.
The self that is still unfolding and unfurling that needs no permission or approval.

If you are alive, you are still in the game, on the field, expected to participate, to contribute.

Search and find the divinity within and let it change you.
Transcending to see the beautiful, one-of-a-kind soul reflecting back at you.
Worthy. Unique. Here on and for a purpose.
Move into it with confidence and grace.


“The True Self is not our creation, but God’s. It is the self we are in our depths. It is our capacity for divinity and transcendence.” – Sue Monk Kidd


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” – Elizabeth Appell

“Life is lived on levels and arrived at in stages.” –  Edwin Louis Cole

Bulb planted
Roots take hold
Breaks ground
One stem branches in all directions
A balancing
Reaching for the sky
All stages in play
From bud to bloom
Unfolding in stages
On time, never late.

Life is found in the process, in the middle, woven tightly between beginnings and endings, unfolding in front of us.
Step back to see progress, growth, lessons, blessings.
Experience loss all the way through, it’s the cost of loving deeply, the full spectrum of living awake.
Experience joy all the way through, it’s the foundation that keeps you rooted when the winds blow strong and relentless.
Experience hope all the way through, it’s the embrace that holds and heals, transforms and transcends.
Do not dismiss ordinary days, the very place and space that holy and sacred reside.
God has placed beauty, wonder and awe hidden right in front of us, never missing a day.
In nature, in another passing soul, in our own soul.
The rhythm of breath, the warmth of light, the flow of time.
Invite it all in to capture your attention, to enter your awareness, to stop you in your tracks.
Forego busy and efficiency, the pursuit of accumulation.
Choose flow, fruition, seed to bloom, waiting in joy in the in between.
Unfoldings abase and abound.

“As life has a way of unfolding as it is meant to, I have learned to trust life.” – Linda Thompson

Change Your Mind

“As each day comes to us refreshed and anew, so does my gratitude renew itself daily. The breaking of the sun over the horizon is my grateful heart dawning upon a blessed world. ” — Adabella Radici

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. Wayne Dyer

According to research, “mindfulness meditation has been reported to produce positive effects on psychological well-being that extend beyond the time the individual is formally meditating. Over the last three decades mindfulness meditation practices have been increasingly incorporated into psychotherapeutic programs, to take advantage of these benefits. A large body of research has established the efficacy of these mindfulness-based interventions in reducing symptoms of a number of disorders, including anxiety, depression, substance abuse, eating disorders, and chronic pain, as well as improving well-being and quality of life.  Mindfulness meditation involves the development of awareness of present-moment experience with a compassionate, non-judgmental stance. It has been suggested that this process is associated with a perceptual shift, in which one’s thoughts and feelings are recognized as events occurring in the broader field of awareness.”

To simplify the practice of meditation, I use Insight Timer every morning with guided meditation or music to set the course for the day as well as listening to relaxing music before bed. Our mind naturally resists change, but we can change our minds. Change your mind, change your life. Stop trying to change others, change your life. We don’t need to be in a constant state of fight or flight.

Meditation, gratitude and optimism are powerful practices to create a daily state filled with joy, light and ease amidst challenging circumstances and people. Rise above by going within.

“Things do not change; we change.” – Henry David Thoreau

Trust the Process

“Life itself is exponential.” – Jeff Rich

“Intuition is the whisper of the soul.”— Jiddu Krishnamurti

Seasons come and go, returning again and again, different and the same;
Be fully present in the season that you are in now;
Patience, grace and light;
No resistance, ease of acceptance, rest of flow;
Prompt inquiry, invite exploration, cut a new path;
Listen for answers that are within already;
Seek the lessons, let them broaden, deepen and transform;
From caterpillar to butterfly, seed to harvest;
Trust the process.

“Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God.” – Corrie Ten Boom


“Your fortune is not something to find but to unfold.” – Eric Butterworth

“The point where woundedness sometimes turns to aliveness is ironically not where we assert our will, but where we learn to surrender and accept our limitations as doorways through which our mastery waits.” – Mark Nepo, Finding Inner Courage

May you see doorways rather than walls
Sky rather than ceiling
Wide open spaces to explore, wander and play with abandon
Discover and unfold
Open and surrender
Aliveness, energy and awe
Breathe it in
Let it be so.

“Growth demands a temporary surrender of security.” – Gail Sheehy

Fertile Ground

“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” – Alan Watts

“Never underestimate the power of dreams and the influence of the human spirit. We are all the same in this notion: The potential for greatness lives within each of us.” – Wilma Rudolph

While the pandemic is “mostly” over in the United States, the remnants of being locked down for 15 months remains, lingers and hovers. It was a collective and individual substantial change, a tipping point. While no one asked for it, we can do something with it. Invite clarity and discernment in to reshape the story.

Each individual chooses what to do with the change – fight it (futile effort) or find fertile ground for new growth (best option for joyful living). Acknowledge the struggle and difficulty, but don’t get stuck there for too long. The residue becomes heavy, slows the journey, hides the joy. Keep moving, listening, exploring, believing, trying, looking, releasing, trusting and giving. Move from exhausted to exhilarated as you create fresh meaning through acceptance, anchored in possibility of fertile ground beneath your feet right now.

Accepting Change by Sarah Blondin

“What you once knew changes shape and flies away.  You watch as your world morphs in front of your eyes.  You try to run after the fragments of what once was, grasping onto the pieces as if they’re your world and the very things that define you.  You shake in fear as the ground beneath your feet cracks and opens.  A canyon so deep you can feel a cold air coming up from its depths.

There you stand, looking around desperately for a glimpse of the reality you once knew.  Silence….sits all around you.  It calls for you to hang your tired feet at the canyon’s edge and feel the air of new life rising from its darkness.

The stillness sweetly whispers in your ear, gently urging you to step out of your wild mind and see the fertile ground you are standing on.  It hopes you will begin to see the beauty in this unfamiliar place.  Often new life can catch us off guard.  It comes like a gust of strong wind and blows away the ideas and structures we have worked so hard at building.  Sitting in the rubble, we tend to forget the part of us that had been crying out for this very thing.  We wish we could take back our secret prayers and scramble to put back the pieces of the comfortable existence we once had.

When faced with great change, we must trust what comes budding forth.  We must quickly release our grasp on the old and familiar in order to plant our new garden.  Resisting change is futile.  The longer we fight our current and therefore only reality, the longer we remain in limbo, trapped somewhere between the past and the future, far from the present.

All change has been called forth from our soul.  Our lesson is to learn to honor the knowledge of our divine being.  Know that there is no need to fear this new world.  Only a child-like sense of awe and exploration.  Remember, we cannot see the gift in what we resist.  Those moments when we’re sitting in what feels like a cavern of despair, realize you have been given time and space to realign with all you desire for your life.  You can choose to see the cavern as terrifying, unknown darkness, or you can choose to pour sweet honey into its cracks.

When you are in a place where there feels to be a black hole staring you in the face, stop in front of it.  Look not into its abyss with fear, but with creativity and a renewed outlook for your life.  This is a moment where you become the creator.  Where you become responsible for what appears.  Where you become the giver of life.  Align with the source within you that knows of your magnificence and all that you are worthy of.  Now is the time to create in the name of all you long for.

Don’t hold back, Dear One.  Don’t stop yourself from creating the most vivid and wildly beautiful existence you can imagine.  In the face of change, sit there…and pour so much beauty you can barely breathe.  Until tears of joy wet your eyes,  your dreams, the smell of the air, your infectious heart, your pure intent…feed it with more love than you have ever experienced before.

For we are all given a powerful choice when change comes and transforms our landscape.  Choose to live joyfully in your abundance, in this place that will not always be yours, before the tides change again.  Befriend curiosity and explore what you very much had a part in creating.

Close your eyes….breathe deep…and full.  Feel the pleasure in the simple act of your breathing.  You have been reborn.  And given a new experience.  Lay here now and let it spill into you.  The walls now down.  Let it become the beauty and newness you have been crying out for.  Your calls have been answered Dear One.

With your breath as your companion, walk into the places you fear.  See that with each step you take into the darkness you bring light.  Begin to enjoy each step of discovery.  Allow your heart to fill with hope as you begin to open to all you once feared.

Now let your breath open all the tight corners within you.  Take a moment to say I love you to the darkness all around you.  Feel its mystery longing for your love and curiosity, and know that you have called it forth.  Know that your deepest self has been longing to meet this place, and is ready to dance with a new reality…of more of what you love.

Feel how supported you are.  See this new life and unknown as a divine acknowledgement that you are on the right path.  For the more new lines you explore the more you grow in the direction of your heart.  For the more you embrace these new eruptions of life before you, the more you trust to fearlessly create your dreams.

Know that you are loved.  Take this moment to choose more love, more light, more of everything that makes your heart sing.  When in doubt, fill to your very ends with breath, for it will open doorways, pathways and blocked roads and reconnect you with the current that runs through all life.   One divine, fluid frequency.

When life changes, when something falls away, remember you are the writer of your story.  The new landscape surrounding you is giving you the space to grow what you choose.  Don’t look back.  You are hear now in this moment to birth your new dreams.  Float open and expand into the newness you carved out.  A newness you have asked for.  The newness you desire.”

The Paradox

“To see a world in a grain of sand and heaven in a wild flower Hold infinity in the palm of your hand and eternity in an hour.” – William Blake

“Temperance – When a sword is tempered, it is first heated to melting point then hammered into a desired shape. It is plunged into cold water. Once cooled, it is fired and hammered again until it grows sharp and strong. This tempering makes the sword worthy of being carried by a king. As we learn to endure and surrender to the fire, the hammer, the cold, we grow strong and uncomplaining. We are able to face whatever comes, holding our temper, while we ourselves are being tempered. We accept the paradox of joy and sorrow, justice and injustice, abundance and scarcity with true temperance and grace. Temperance is our ability to endure with sobriety and equanimity the transforming fires of experience and the dowsing waters of disappointment. Temperance is the ability to allow ourselves to be molded into the being we are intended to be.” – Ann Mortifee, In Love with the Mystery

May you see color, light and beauty in difficult seasons;
May you hear a symphony forming from single notes in a noisy loud world;
May you breathe in the fragrance of spring in bloom as winter lingers;
May you trust the unfolding of the story without fully understanding;
May you allow unknowing in and observe without opinion;
May you respond with grace and kindness rather than react in judgment;
May you embrace all of the paradoxes of living and allow blessings to embed gratitude in each day;
Open your heart, meet every moment, see the doorway.

“Meet Every Moment – When we lose our self-pity, a whole new world opens. We often act as if life has singled us out to cause us personal struggle. But life is simply life. We either face what comes to us with courage and forbearance, or we fall into complaining and feeling sorry for ourselves. To meet every moment as a challenge is the only way to find peace. When we are content with what is, even a setback becomes a doorway.” – Ann Mortifee, In Love with the Mystery


“We’re all born exactly who we are supposed to be, but we take these weird detours in order to fit in, or please others, or get our way, or just get by. We suffer wounds and build up scar tissue.”— Marrow: A Love Story by Elizabeth Lesser

If you know the full Easter story from Friday to Sunday, it means more this year if examined and applied to your own and our collective life. After a year of a pandemic, ongoing unrest, the anger of opinions and hatred of others different than “me,” we carry many crosses. With the mass distribution of vaccines, this Easter is different than the uncertainty of last Easter. We are in between Friday and Sunday, not where we were and not where we are going to be quite yet.

While I will get the vaccine for the rest, I am not putting my faith, hope and being into a vaccine to save the world. Jesus already saved the world. He saves us daily from our unbelief, fear and shallow living. It’s a matter of whether we choose to notice, do something about it and be changed.

While imperfect and often poorly executed, I put my faith and hope in God to save the world, not man. Today is the day in between crucifixion and resurrection. Linger here and allow it to touch your soul and transform your life. By the scars of Jesus, the empty tomb and the resurrection, our own scars can be softened to feel again, to be reborn and remade.

“SATURDAY SILENCE The shadows shift and fly. The whole long day the air trembles, thick with silence, until, finally, the footsteps are heard, and the noise of the voice of God is upon us. The Holy One is not afraid to walk on unholy ground. The Holy Work is done, and the world awaits the dawn of Life.” — Kneeling in Jerusalem by Ann Weems

Sunday light and transformation are coming, has already come and remains to this very day. Hope over despair. Choose light, accept the darkness lingers and still choose light to overcome it.

Rain Jacket

“Rain is grace; rain is the sky descending to the earth; without rain, there would be no life.” – John Updike

Against my natural instinct to not go out in the rain, I put on a rain jacket to get the girls for an end of day walk after another meeting-packed day. My last meeting yesterday was with a client who I’ve worked with for 12-years who is merging with another organization, so it was my last meeting with them. It was another good-bye. This has been a year filled with good-byes – of people, of activities we enjoy doing, of “normal” living.

Life often feels like series of good-byes and transitions. Our natural instinct is to avoid, run and hide from them like going into the rain. If we live well, we weave experiences, places and people through our fiber. They become a part of us so when things change, a piece of us is carved out of our being and we are never the same. But that is not the end of the story.

On the other side of good-byes are fresh hellos and adventures waiting to be entered when we cross the threshold of what has been to what is next. If we keep looking backwards, we miss what’s already present and what the past has prepared us for in new paths to explore. Life is a year-round classroom. We decide if we are going to learn and grow or do just enough to get a C+ by coasting unaware, stuck and dry in sameness.

Endings and beginnings are a package deal. If we allow, we concurrently enter the depth of departure and embrace the anticipation of new adventures. As a door closes, it prompts the next door to open. Often, it disguises itself as rain, so put on your rain jacket and get out into the rain, crossing the threshold to abundance and light.

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