So much of the narrative of our life is defined by others, our past and what we all have allowed in. Change the narrative, change the story. Be mindful and careful of what you allow in and keep out.
Like Teflon, don’t let fear, other people’s shallow criticism and comments control your now and your future. Our regret rarely lies in what we’ve done but rather what we haven’t done. Dreams we didn’t pursue, activities we didn’t try, things we didn’t say.
Worry and fear hold us back from trying at all ages and stages of our life. And with one step, we can change it all. Do it afraid. Silence those voices by trying things, learning and growing until your last day on this earth.
Like a sponge, soak in possibility, confidence and hope. Let that feeling of “I Can” stick. Fear is a liar.
“When he told you you’re not good enough
When he told you you’re not right
When he told you you’re not strong enough
To put up a good fight
When he told you you’re not worthy
When he told you you’re not loved
When he told you you’re not beautiful
That you’ll never be enough
Fear, he is a liar
He will take your breath
Stop you in your steps
Fear he is a liar
He will rob your rest
Steal your happiness
Cast your fear in the fire
‘Cause fear he is a liar”
Zach Williams, – Fear is a Liar
Get your Teflon on.
The steps that you take today add up. What they add up to is up to you. Fulfillment and fruition require effort and time. Short cuts are detours that take us off the path we are intended to take.
Do today’s work, allow time to do its work and be gratefully present in this day. Be positive, kind, hopeful, generous and lighten up. Laugh, sing and dance along the way too. We are a work in progress, called to daily joy, growing in preparation to bloom in due time.
“Will is to grace as the horse is to the rider.” – Saint Augustine
Keep going, even when it makes no sense.
Risk is not in doing but in stopping. Stay young, at least mentally, by participating. A summer weekend at a cabin included waterskiing, sleeping in a tent and jetskiing at 55 mph across the lake.
With my weak wrists and neck, waterskiing would not be the most logical choice, but it was the right one. Five tries later, I was up on skis twice, taking in the waves and soaking in the blue skies. A few minutes of sheer joy. I’m sore, tired and achy and quite satisfied. I may not be graceful, but I am gratefully aware of grace, every day.
Keep getting back up on the horse, even if you need a ladder to do so. Stay in the game.
“People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.” – Thich Nhat Hanh
We want to know the end before we start. We hesitate, freeze, hold back, analyze and run the opposite direction of the unknowing. We take comfort in the familiar, especially when it’s time to move on. But it is in the unknowing, in the mystery, we find our true capacity, strength, depth, resolve, resilience and at its core, our very soul and its longing.
Keep moving and release the hollow fear that is holding you back from fullness of living, from the very breath of life. Return again and again to a beginner’s mind, ready to learn, to make mistakes, to risk being the fool. For the fool is unhindered from what others think and self-imposed limitations. The fool transforms into a genius by moving swiftly into the unknowing until it becomes known.
Move fiercely into the unknown and discover with a renewed enthusiasm where the road less taken will lead you.
“Oh the places you’ll go! There is fun to be done! There are points to be scored. There are games to be won. And the magical things you can do with that ball will make you the winning-est winner of all.”
― Dr. Seuss
It’s opener, out there, in the wide, open air.” ― Dr. Seuss, Oh, The Places You’ll Go!
“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go…”
― Dr. Seuss, Oh, The Places You’ll Go!
We create imaginary boundaries that keep us from crossing the line into possibility and abundance. In our scarcity mindset, we fixate on change, fight change and prepare for change rather than letting change unfold and tell its own story.
Start looking past the changing leaves of fall that lead us into winter and gaze into the blue sky that remains boundless in all seasons. Imagine no boundaries and see how far you will go. Oh, the places you will go!
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” – Thomas A. Edison
“Let us never know what old age is. Let us know the happiness time brings, not count the years.” – Ausonius
We spend a good part of our life competing, going faster in the pursuit of the prize. And I love a good competition as a way to keep improving and challenging myself to stay in the game. Never been a fan of showing up trophies.
As the years have passed, I have a new appreciation for time rather than recording new times. Time with good friends and family with an acute awareness of the brevity of time. Not only showing up but trying and not accepting anything less than doing our best, whatever that may be.
Today, we ran the Minnesota State Fair Milk Run, a tradition. We all run different paces. Rather than worrying about my time, I wanted to run for the experience of time with friends who are a part of the fabric and color in my life. We didn’t set any records but created a memory to treasure, especially when things change as they always do.
Enjoy each day, laugh and cast your bright light over those shadows that the world pulls us to. Be present with people and create time for yourself for gratitude and the sacred awareness of the blessings in your life. Dive deeper into this moment, rather than racing through your life.
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie
It’s my great nephew Liam’s first birthday party tomorrow. I got him a radio flyer bike stroller about a month ago. I hesitantly opened the box tonight. I put it off because I was afraid that I wouldn’t be able to put it together. As I imagined, it came in several pieces. I laid them all out and started in. One step at a time and an hour later, it’s done.
Often times we don’t start or hold back because of a lack of confidence. Yet the only way to build confidence is by diving in and trying. What are you holding yourself back from doing because of those voices in your head psyching you out from even trying? Those voices either planted by others or yourself? Or are you holding back because it won’t be perfect? Perfect is not the enemy of good, it’s the enemy of ever getting things done.
Get busy – make mistakes, practice, stay in the game and never give up before starting. Pursue that endeavor that’s whispering from within – painting, running a race, writing or even putting together a radio flyer.
“It’s the job that’s never started as takes longest to finish.” – J. R. R. Tolkien
“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.” – Henry David Thoreau
As we were finishing our walk in the woods, we heard the trees rustle. We looked quickly to the left and a beautiful deer popped her head up, mouth full of leaves. Startled at first, we gazed in awe in each other’s eyes for a minute and then quietly went on our way.
“If you do not expect the unexpected you will not find it, for it is not to be reached by search or trail.” – Heraclitus
You never know what’s going to be around the next corner, on the path ahead. Assume good things are coming and open up to the “unexpected in common hours.”
“If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.” – Bruce Lee
What we “go” on, what we pursue, what we say “yes” to defines our very life. So often we say yes when we should say no and no when we should say yes. Or even worse, we don’t answer at all, we freeze, delayed by an overwhelm of options or believing that there are no options at all.
Open your eyes and see the abundance that is found in this day. Choose wisely, but by all means choose. What we don’t do is what we most regret.
So savor more, give more, be grateful more, be kind more and always choose optimism which is a daily decision. The light is green, GO.
“Wherever you go, go with all your heart.” Confucius
“Ah, but a man’s reach should exceed his grasp, Or what’s a heaven for?” – Robert Browning
It is in the effort and action of reaching that we are simultaneously pulled and pushed. Motion transforms to momentum. Dreams released to unfold. The effort soon becomes effortless and the action natural.
“But for each of us, isn’t life about determining your own finish line?” – Diana Nyad
Change is our friend not foe. Growth is our calling. And reaching our potential is not only for oneself but is the gift that the world needs from each one of us. Our purpose is to leave this world with no regrets or doubts that we became our best and most sacred self. And the world is better for it.
Reach, and keep reaching.