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Mark This Day

“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.” – Washington Irving

I need to mark this day. A day of loss and one of deep gratitude as well – often what life is made of – a mix of both.  So many of the good lessons I’ve learned over the years have come from Lily. My funny, goofy best friend who always knew how to brighten a room with her levity and capacity for sheer delight.

After over a month struggling with an auto-immune disease, I needed to make a choice for her today, not me. Even after two blood transfusions, multiple tests and over eight medications, she wasn’t bouncing to her natural state of joy. As soon as she generated blood red cells, they were destroyed. After her second transfusion on Sunday, her red blood count dropped to half where it should be at a minimum. She wasn’t who she was and she was suffering.

It’s never easy to make the decision to say goodbye to a loyal and loving friend, but when you see the relief in her eyes as the pain releases from her body, you know it’s the right decision. She was only six years old and was still heartbroken over losing Molly in June and Dad in April. We were making our way, marking our days together, mending each other’s heart.


Mark your days – each and every one – the good ones and the oh so difficult ones. And know underneath someone else’s distant or distracted nature, something very difficult may be going on in their life and most likely is. It happens to all of us to be sure. Be kind and compassionate especially if you don’t feel like it. And remember that we don’t have forever, so start enjoying your life today.

Lily showed me unconditional love, how to lighten up and how to greet others – with wide open eyes, boundless energy and an unending smile. And, if necessary, gently holding your arm in her mouth.

Safe travels to heaven Lily and give Molly and Dad a big hug from me. You’ll be sure to make your mark there like you did on my life here. Thank you love.


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  1. Laura E. #

    I don’t even know what to say. I am so heartbroken for you. I enjoyed reading about your beloved pets through the years. I always loved seeing the “smiles” on their faces. I know they were smiles because they had such a loving mother in you. It’s been a rough year and I can only express my deepest sympathy to you from another pet lover. I know they are being well taken care of by your dad. I hope that brings you some measure of comfort. XXOO, Laura

    October 5, 2016
    • Thanks Laura – knowing Lily, Molly and Dad are together gives me great solace. This is the first time in 25 years I’m not tripping over a dog this morning or being woken up with a kiss. Memories help and creating new ones will too. Loved those girls.

      October 5, 2016
  2. I am so very sorry for all of the loss you are suffering this year. Thank you for the gift of your beautiful reflections. Please know that I am praying for you.

    October 5, 2016
    • Thank you so much – not my favorite year for sure! Very grateful for what remains.

      October 5, 2016
  3. It is so hard to say goodbye to a beloved animal companion. They are the best of us. Each one is part of our heart and so will never leave but we miss tripping over the furry body and many other things that go into our daily relationship with them. Aum.

    October 5, 2016
    • Amen – they give us so much more than we do in return. Thanks

      October 5, 2016
  4. Memory Eternal! I feel like I have said this to you far too many times this year.
    Blessings and strength!

    October 5, 2016
    • Thank you so much. Hopefully the last time for this year.

      October 11, 2016
  5. I’ve had that experience with a wonderful pet (a beautiful Persian cat named Blue Par). It isn’t an easy decision, but, as you’ve said, one that has our friend’s best at heart.
    And losing a precious animal friend, I have found, has been just as painful as losing a human friend or family member. They really do give us so much love. Even today, many years later, his love remains to fill me with sweet memories. Memories such as remain with you as you think upon your father’s love and Molly’s. A sad year for you. Though, somehow these happenings make us more capable of deeply understanding the human condition; allowing us greater interconnection with ourselves and others.

    October 5, 2016
    • So beautifully said – thank you for sharing. Our animal family members teach us how to more human to be sure.

      October 5, 2016
  6. So sorry for your loss sweetie! Sending you hugz and prayers in your time of healing! Hugz Lisa and Bear

    October 6, 2016
    • Thank you so much

      October 6, 2016
      • I feel for you on the loss of your beloved fur kid

        October 6, 2016
  7. <3 <3 <3

    October 13, 2016
  8. I’m so sorry. What a good quote from Washington.

    October 18, 2016

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